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Two Letters I Invite You All to Write

Howard S. Boney, Jr.              

 P.O. Box B

Tarboro, NC 27886

 

Dear Mr. Boney,

Last summer I was one of millions of Americans who heard about the murder of Tyler McMillan on the news. Since then his story has haunted me and I often remember the cruel torture this sweet boy endured before he died. Any parent or step-parent who can commit such a crime is beyond comprehension. Something has to change. If we don’t ensure that Tyler gets justice we are just as guilty as those who ignored his cries for help. Now one of Tyler’s killers has been released on bond – free to have contact with children – including her own daughter who could be called to testify against her! How can a child who has feared for her life find the strength to stand up and testify against a dangerous parent who has been set free after committing such a crime? We as a society are failing on every level to protect our children and act justly! Mr. Boney, you yourself have said, “As your District Attorney, I have promoted the rights of victims for more than twenty-six years. Child abuse is a crime in which all of society becomes its victim. Our children are our hope and our future.” Those are wonderful words, but if you fail to prevent Tyler’s killer from manipulating the system those words are meaningless. Please appeal for an immediate restraining order to prevent Sandra McMillan from any form of contact with her daughter. I am one of many, many people who want Justice For Tyler. But justice doesn’t just happen on it’s own. We must ensure it. Please do the right thing. The world is watching.

 

Judge Milton F. Fitch, Jr.

c/o Judicial District 7 – Edgecombe County Clerk of Superior CourtEdgecombe County Courthouse

PO Drawer 9 Tarboro, NC 27886

 

Dear Judge Fitch,

Last summer I was one of millions of Americans who heard about the murder of Tyler McMillan on the news. Since then his story has haunted me and I often remember the cruel torture this sweet boy endured before he died. Any parent or step-parent who can commit such a crime is beyond comprehension. Something has to change. If we don’t ensure that Tyler gets justice we are just as guilty as those who ignored his cries for help. Now one of Tyler’s killers has been released on bond – free to have contact with children – including her own daughter who could be called to testify against her! How can a child who has feared for her life find the strength to stand up and testify against a dangerous parent who has been set free after committing such a crime? We as a society are failing on every level to protect our children and act justly! Mr. Fitch, you are referred to as ‘Your Honor’. Our society affords honor to the men and women who sit in judgement and ensure justice. Your honor has not been earned by personal morality or professional accomplishment. It is bestowed by the people, borrowed if you will, so that you will in turn bestow honor on innocent victims by granting them justice. Please do the honorable thing and grant an immediate restraining order to prevent Sandra McMillan from any form of contact with her daughter. I am one of many, many people who want Justice For Tyler. But justice doesn’t just happen on it’s own. We must ensure it. Please do the right thing. The world is watching.

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For Tyler McMillan

 

The tragic murder of Tyler McMillan last summer is still fresh on our hearts and minds.  A gag order has been enforced in the case, but commenters on our original blog post have shared updates regarding the criminal proceedings.

https://tearsinabottle.wordpress.com/2008/06/17/justice-for-tyler/

A commenter on this blog has started a facebook cause to remember Tyler and to stand for justice in the criminal trials of Tyler’s father and step-mother.

http://apps.facebook.com/causes/194397?recruiter_id=17430233

If you are a facebook member, one way you can help is to join the cause.  Another way to help is to make a donation to Prevent Child Abuse North Carolina, Inc., a 501(c)(3) nonprofit.

http://www.preventchildabusenc.org/

We must all be more acutely aware of the signs and symptoms of child abuse as a result of Tyler’s death and be willing to report suspected cases of child abuse to authorities for investigation.

What else can we do to work to ensure justice for Tyler within our legal system?  What else can we do to make sure what happened to Tyler doesn’t happen to another innocent child?  Please add your thoughts and comments below.

Justice for Tyler

Last week in a ‘good Christian family’ a 13 year old boy named Tyler was murdered.  By all accounts Tyler was sweet, obedient, and compliant young man.  But apparently he was not perfect.  Last week he made a mistake of some kind.  Because of Tyler’s mistake, his father tied him to a tree overnight as punishment.  In the morning he let him go but the next night he tied him up again with his step-mother’s full knowledge.  Later that day Tyler was found unconscious and all efforts to revive him failed.

I am furious about what happened to Tyler.  For the last few days the Bible verses Tyler’s parents must have used to justify his actions have played over and over in my head.  There’s ‘spare the rod and spoil the child’.  There’s ‘children obey your parents’.  There’s the one about the father taking his rebellious son outside the village to be stoned for his disobedience in the name of God.  I wonder if those verses played over and over in Tyler’s head as he was tied to that tree.  I wonder when he realized his young life was slipping away.  I wonder if and when he stopped believing that his dad was good.

I believe God too is furious about what happened to Tyler.  When the Judeans killed their children in the name of religion God was furious enough to give His chosen people over to the hand of the uncircumcised Chaldeans.  He said:  “They built the high places of Baal that are in the valley of Ben-hinnom to cause their sons and their daughters to pass through the fire to Molech, which I had not commanded them nor had it entered My mind that they should do this abomination, to cause Judah to sin.”  God did not command Tyler’s parents to tie him to that tree.  It had not even entered God’s mind that they could do this horrible abomination.  It was a sin beyond God’s imagination.  A sin that demands justice.  I want justice for Tyler.

May God give us all eyes to see.  To stand in the gap for the Tylers in this world before it’s too late.  This episode was far from a momentary lapse in judgement.  Parents don’t suddenly decide to tie their children to trees.  Abuse, like every other sin escalates as you feed it.  The rush of power and sense of control abusers get from their crimes override rationality like any other drug.  Reports are that Tyler’s dad was ‘scary’ and that he made people feel uncomfortable.  If you as a grown man or woman feel afraid around someone, just try to imagine how a small child must feel when trapped with that person behind closed doors.  

I’m planning to start a series of posts here cataloging the symptoms of child abuse and what you should do if you suspect it may be happening.  It’s not justice for Tyler, that’s in God’s hands now.

*edited on 1/20/2009 to change ‘mother’ to ‘step-mother’*