I believe it was in Captivating where Stasi talked about romance novels as being the bestselling novels and the fact that they don’t even have to be great works of literature, but women are buying them up like crazy.
I can’t help but wonder if these authors have tapped into something at the core, at the heart of women….our desire to be pursued and found, to be wooed and fought for, and to be romanced.
And look at the covers on these books; they are women with the perfect endowed figure, clothes suggestively disheveled and hair blowing in the wind. These novels we are told are full of sin and evil because of the feelings and desires expressed. (I’m not condoning it I am getting to a point here)
How many of us are self-conscious, uncomfortable or ashamed by this desire.
How often do we not diminish it, reduce it to feelings of humiliation, scorn it or criticize it, or simply downplay it. Or perhaps the desire has gotten us into trouble and caused us pain so we do our best to eradicate it and remove it. Or maybe we’ve experienced abuse somewhere in our journey and we fear it.
Yet…. doesn’t it seem that our desire for romance refuses to die? Oh believe me; we may have worked very hard to bury it, shoving it so deep inside that we hope to forget about it, but yet it remains.
Why are we ashamed or embarrassed by our desire to be romanced? Is it not our Lord who put within our hearts that glorious longing to be romanced? Isn’t it in fact where we bear His image…..God loves romance!! He is the author of romance. It is the enemy who has perverted the purity God gave to us. The entire Word of God is a love story—filled with God’s love for us….and just look around at the sunsets, flowers, the music and the love and you know that God is the author of romance…..
And as John and Brent have said in The Sacred Romance; “The God who saves is also a God who woos His own to a relationship primarily of the heart. It is possible to recover the lost life of our heart and with it the intimacy, beauty, and adventure of life with God.”
“You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.” (Jeremiah 29:13)
God wants to be pursued. And so do we!
At the risk of being misunderstood I am not saying that being romanced is all that a woman wants…..and I am not meaning that a woman should find the meaning of her existence in whether of not she is being or has been romanced by a man. But I am saying the desire for romance isn’t wrong; it’s God-given.
And yet……if romantic love becomes all that we crave, scripture tells us we’ve missed the boat.
There’s only one love that is wide enough and deep enough to satisfy: God’s love (Eph. 3).
I guess what I am getting at is that as women we find freedom when we are authentic, when we can acknowledge that deep in our hearts we long for desire, to be pursued….that at some core place deep within, we want, we desire to be seen, delighted in, and pursued. We long to be romanced by the Creator of our hearts.
May your roots go down deep into the soil of God’s marvelous love. And may you have the power to understand, as all God’s people should, how wide, how long, how high, and how deep His love really is. May you experience the love of Christ, though it is so great you will never fully understand it.