“Johnson & VanVonderen use the following 7 criteria to identify the abusive system. These criteria can be used in a wide range of systems, from families and groups to organizations, to see if they are abusive:
- Performance Preoccupation
- Unspoken Rules
- Lack of Balance
- Misplaced Loyalty
Spiritual (religious) abuse occurs when a leader uses his or her spiritual (religious) position to control or dominate another person.” http://www.crescentlife.com/spirituality/spiritual_abuse.htm
Spiritual abuse can exist in families. When a parent uses his or her spiritual authority to spiritually dominate a son or daughter, that is spiritual abuse. Parents are given authority to guide and point their children to God, not to themselves.
1 Timothy 2:5
For there is one God and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus.
[ Freedom in Christ ] It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery.
2 Corinthians 3:17
Now the Lord is the Spirit, and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom.
Speak and act as those who are going to be judged by the law that gives freedom,
2 Peter 2:19
They promise them freedom, while they themselves are slaves of depravity—for a man is a slave to whatever has mastered him.