The most helpful thing I’ve read lately is a four word quote from John Eldredge in Walking With God. He said “don’t waste your pain”.
We all have our share of pain eventually. It comes out of nowhere to slap us in the face when we least expect it. It looks from the outside like some people get a free pass from pain, but looks are deceiving. You need to know that this burden we all bear is so, so, so, so, so NOT God’s desire. He has always wanted better for us.
I’ve said this before, but it bears repeating, the most expensive thing in the universe is Love. Love costs us and costs God dearly. God pays an immeasurable price every day to buy us the right to Love. Every day we have the right to choose and that choice opens the door to unspeakable consequences. Our right to choose, our freedom to Love means that a father has the choice to rape his young daughter. It means a drunk has the choice to sit behind the wheel. It means a terrorist has the choice to detonate a bomb.
Pain wasn’t meant to be wasted. It was meant to be redeemed with the very purchase it was spent on. Because Love, too is a choice. Spend Love generously, lavishly, wastefully on yourself, on your fellow humans, and on God. Don’t waste your pain.