As we go along on this journey we will be sharing more of our stories.
My story is that of a victim of abuse, its a story not only of sexual abuse, but also of violence. It may offend your sensibilities, actually if you read our stories without feeling sad and angry, something is wrong. At times you may find it to be shocking and and deeply moving. I don’t share it for the shock value. In truth I will leave out some of the most gruesome details.
We are sharing our stories in order to open the door to a candid discussion of abuse.
Among victims is the tendancy to downplay their abuse. You might read our stories and think that your situation wasn’t as bad as ours. If you are a victim and can say that, fine. But even if perchance your story is not as emotionally, physically, or spiritually as painful as ours, you are still a victim.
Don’t fall into the trap of measuring your abuse against what happened in our lives. Measure it against your reaction to it, your feelings, your memories, your relationships and your self-esteem.
It was suggested to me once that rather than measuring my abuse against what happened in others lives, that I look closely at the following.I encourage you to do the same.
1. Measure your being a victim against your ability to trust people.
2.Measure it against your ability to have healthy, fun, open relationships, with both men and women.
3. Measure your victimization against the impact it had on one person-you.
Its okay to hurt if the hurting has a purpose, a direction and an end. By a journal and begin writing, recording your thoughts, feelings, experiences, insights and even prayers as we go along. I pray that as we journey together you too will find the healer, Jesus, the One who will meet you in your place of deepest hurt and need.